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I've just entered into my twenties knowing I have HSV2 and its destroying my self esteem every day bit by bit. I'm seeing most of my friends dating or even just talking to a guy so carefree with out having to worry about these kind of things. I've become so guarded and negative these past 6 months when I found out. So I guess my question is does dating and the thoughts about this get better?
Thank you for your question and thank you you ladies for your words of inspiration. I too have been feeling the same way especially after ending a decade long relationship and having to date for the first time positive.
It does get better over time. I would suggest looking for a Herpes support group in your area. There you can meet and talk to others who are going through the same things you are. And I also recommend learning as much as you can about Herpes. The more you know about it, the easier it will be to reassure others. I find that ashasexualhealth.org is about the best place for STD information out there.
I can tell you personally that it was very hard for me for the firat few years after I found out. But after about a decade now I can tell you it matters less and less. I have had pretty positibe experiences. Honestly I have probably told about 7-10 men that do not have anything about it and not one of them even cared. One asked that I take medication and really that was it. Hang in there. Someone will accept you for you! Get to know and love yourself and be comfortable with this being just a small part of your life and don't let it consume you. If I knew back then what I know now I could have saved myself a lot of anguish and I hope you spare yourself the same. Best of luck!
Have you ever heard the saying " Time heals all wounds" --It is true.. Eventually when you come to grips with this situation -you will feel "whole " again. Associating ( dating) people in the same situation can also make the emotional healing process more manageable. Avoid " The Talk" with non infected people as most people will run away. . There are plenty of great guys out there in your situation and on dating sites just like this. Be patient, stay healthy - avoid sugars, alcohol and stress/depression to lessen your outbreaks. Exercise /fitness helps also.. I have been positive since 2003 --It gets better with time .