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I slept with a woman who afterwards reported to have had high risk HPV and is post-Leep procedure. Need a little insight and advice .. please read on.
I am a 29 year old male who slept with a woman 3 times. There was some unprotected sex, but the majority was with a condom. She did not inform me until afterwards and I am unsure of how to handle this - mostly becuase it appears I will never know if I actually contracted the virus. Brief history from her standpoint is she was diagnosed with high risk HPV after an abnormal routine PAP about 1 year ago. She is now 9 months post-LEEP proceudre to remove abnormal cells that had developed and at her 6 month checkup was told everything is clear. What I do not know is whether standard procedure will actually test for active HPV infection on these follow-up appointments or if they are just performing a PAP to examine for presence of abnormal tissue growth. I would feel better about this if I learned that HPV was tested for again but I am not certain and at this point neither is she - dormant infection is thought by some experts to be much less likely to transmit so if she was HPV negative at her 6 month (which occured about 8 weeks ago) I would feel a bit more confident that she had cleared the virus (i realize you can never be sure). Post-LEEP there seems to be more evidence for a probable 6 month clearance rate than not.
Secondly - for any other man in this scenerio - I am trying to learn how people deal with it. Should I carry on as normal and consider myself less likely to have the virus given the circumstance here within? Should i remain abstinent for 2 years when I can remain 90% confident that if i had contracted the virus I have now cleared it myself? I am terrrified to disclose this to a future partner (maybe potential wife) because there is now way to be sure I have contracted anything. I am unsure how to handle everything for the time being. I am also consider having her go to get test for HPV currently to determine whether or not she has identifiable active infection at this time. Any advice?